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In senior dating lingo, the word “cougar” is used; cougar triggered comments from 4 women when used in Tom’s newsletter. Some women despise the word cougar.

December 22, 2016

Laurie, “I enjoy my younger man calling me his cougar. I call him my cub. I'm not offended at all. It's very sexy and fun. 


Joanie said, “I would like to see the word ‘cougar’ along with the "N" word and the "F" word deleted from the American vocabulary. We have no similar insulting word that we apply to the more typical old man dating a young woman.  And even in that situation, the woman is called a "gold digger" yet there is no similar insulting name to call the man.  Why is that? 

Younger women dating older man often blame others for saying younger women date older men for their money.

December 01, 2016

One of the issues often raised by women age 50+ is older men dating younger women. So, it's always a relief to hear of a young woman who has thrown up her hands in frustration at dating older men and withdrawn from the dating pool. This week's candidate didn't leave without some serious finger pointing at me for making matters difficult for her.
Older single women can breathe a sigh of relief. A 31-year-old has removed herself from the pool of women seeking older men.
And she blames me for what happened. 
She searched my Finding Love After 50 Website for information about younger women dating older men and found a column I had written on the topic. 


Should older single women lie about their age? Some say it is ok; others say a lie, is a lie is a lie.

December 01, 2016

This is a two part article. Part 2, at the end, are 5 responses to this article.


Part 1 - Two weeks ago, this column featured a story about Clyde and Bonnie, an Orange County, California, couple who met online after Bonnie lowered her age by seven years in her online profile. With her age listed as 62--her true age--she was only attracting "old guys," men she had no interest in dating.


Encouraged by friends who told her she looked far younger than her true age, Bonnie went from being 62 to 55 with a few keystrokes on her computer.

Last autumn, within an hour of her new age appearing on, Bonnie received an email from Clyde. Her strategy worked, she and Clyde are getting married in July.

Dating the age gap. Older men dating younger women and older women dating younger men always stirs the pot.

October 16, 2016

In last week's newsletter about the 25-year-old woman lawyer who is dating the 40-year-old man, I asked for your comments. I got an earful.


A few of you took me to task, and in retrospect, rightly so. You said my comments were snide, almost sarcastic. Some felt the lawyer was not "full of herself," as I had stated.


Many felt that the 15-year age difference wasn't monumental and shared their similar age-difference experiences.


Thanks for being honest and for keeping me in line. I let my personal feelings get in the way of objective journalism.

A young woman dating a wealthy older man claims the money doesn’t matter. Really?

October 16, 2016

Here's a bit of a change-of-pace topic today. I need your help responding to this young woman's email.


She wrote, "I recently read your article (on the Finding Love After 50 website) in which you incorporated the reactions that older women had to the idea of men their age looking for younger partners."

She continued, "While, as an attorney and not a social scientist, I am not qualified to comment on wide-spread trends, I take offense at the assumption by you that a younger woman dating an older man is always either a gold-digger or a silly tart who is unwilling to take care of the needs of her older counter-part."

In search for a man with True Grit

October 16, 2016

Andrea, a spiritual coach, who lives outside of metro Atlanta, is a breath of fresh air. She's outspoken, bold and doesn't mince words. She's single and admits she would like a life partner, but only if he's right for her. She has strong beliefs about what she wants and isn't afraid to state them. We share her beliefs with you today.


Andrea said, "I was born and raised in the south and have lived in a few other places. I possess a lot of traditionally southern traits and yet I am also very different. People who have lived in California tell me I am more of a California type of person, and friends from the north tell me I'm a Yankee in a southern suit.

Men and women divided in opinions

October 16, 2016

Last week we featured Andrea, the spirited, spiritual coach from Atlanta. I referred to her as a breath of fresh air. Many women found a bit of themselves in Andrea. But the men who responded took issue with some of her comments. It's that senior version of Mars and Venus phenomenon at work again. Let's look at the differences.


What the women said...

Older Woman Dating Younger Man Works For This Couple

September 17, 2016

Older Woman Dating Younger Man Works For This Couple

Grandmother 67 meet younger man on Internet. Keeps arms around him much of the time.

The above title sounds like a headline from a tabloid. But it isn’t. It’s a story about one of our newsletter subscribers. There so much to like about it that I want to share it with you.

Pat, 67, Shickshinny, Pa., and Len, 62, just returned from a 26-state, 67-day, 14,000-mile, trip from Pennsylvania to California and back. On a motorcycle!

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