Older Woman Dating Younger Man Works For This Couple
By Tom P Blake - Finding Love after 50
Grandmother 67 meet younger man on Internet. Keeps arms around him much of the time.
The above title sounds like a headline from a tabloid. But it isn’t. It’s a story about one of our newsletter subscribers. There so much to like about it that I want to share it with you.
Pat, 67, Shickshinny, Pa., and Len, 62, just returned from a 26-state, 67-day, 14,000-mile, trip from Pennsylvania to California and back. On a motorcycle!
Pat and Len met two years ago on BikerKiss.com. That’s right, BikerKiss.com. Pat explains, “I went to that site as sort of a joke, a girlfriend had just bought a motorcycle. Len and I emailed back and forth for a while then met for lunch, talked for 3 hours. 2nd date we spent a day together at a Victorian town about halfway between our homes with lots of talking and laughing. Had a great time. 3rd date we met again for lunch which turned into dinner also; then he wanted me to meet his family and the rest is history.”
Three things I like about this story already: It’s an Internet-meeting success story. It’s an older-woman-dating-younger-man success story and it’s a people-in-their-60s-pursuing-adventure-and-appreciating-life story.
I asked Pat how each one keeps his or her sanity when traveling so intimately together for 67 days.
“For us it's a matter of laughing a lot, even when things are not going as smoothly as we would like. For example, we were low on gas in Nevada at the intersection of Extraterrestrial Highway (not joking) and US 6, in a ghost town. From the map it looked like there would be something there since it was an intersection with a U.S. highway. There wasn’t. The nearest town was 50 miles away. We had a guardian angel, a kind-hearted young man, who drove 100 miles roundtrip to get gas for us. We had water, a shady spot to sit and there was a breeze, so we just waited.
“Many people would have placed blame about being low on gas. it turned out to be a good day after all. Beside the laughter—which we do a lot of— everything tickles us. We respect and like each other in addition to being in love.”
Other things I like about the story: they respect and like each other and laugh often.
Pat added, “At our age why get nit-picky about things? This is our time and both of us realize how lucky we are that we met someone to share things with. Len loves being able to share the travel, gorgeous scenery and the freedom of riding. We both adjusted quickly. One evening we were watching TV and he started to laugh. When I asked him what was so funny, he told me that he was just so happy that he couldn't help but laugh.
Pat feels that people over 50 need to accept each other’s habits. “Much of your mail has to do with people wanting their partner to change. It ain't gonna happen. You have to accept people as they are—unless they are abusive, addicted, that sort of behavior—otherwise, count your blessings and realize that you're not perfect either. If you can't do that. Walk away.”
I also like Pat’s statement about accepting people as they are and not trying to change them.
Pat finished by saying: “Len and I are able to sit in the same room, reading books, no conversation, but just content knowing that we are together. It’s very simple, why complicate things?
“I feel blessed and privileged to have this terrific man in my life. My family loves him. They think he is the best. His family and friends have been wonderful to me, warm and welcoming and I have been told that he is happier than he has been in many years. And that makes me feel good.”
And the last thing I love about this story is how appreciative Pat is for having met Len. I hope men read it and realize that dating an older woman can greatly add to their lives.