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Email changed tennis pro's life. 43 years had passed since they talked. How 50 Couples Found Love After 50 prompted this story. Old flames can reunite.

December 22, 2016

Kirk is in his fifth year as the Director of Tennis and head coach for both the boys and girls tennis teams at JSerra High School in San Juan Capistrano, California. While having lunch at my Dana Point deli one day, he noticed my How 50 Couples Found Love after 50 book on display and said, "I have a story that would have fit in your book."


Kirk said that on October 11, 2007, he and his twin brother Keith were driving home from work on Pacific Coast Highway when they noticed a woman with short blonde hair who reminded them of Valerie, Kirk's sixth grade (1964) girlfriend. They had a conversation about her and how she would likely look now. Kirk hadn't communicated with Valerie in 43 years.

John's Dilemma. He keeps hoping Carol will want him, but she only responds with an obligatory, sibling-like hug.

December 01, 2016

Note from Tom: This article first ran in 2008. Note, this is a two-part article. Part 2, at the end, are the follow-up responses from readers to this article.


One of our members has a dilemma and seeks your advice. I promised we'd change his name to John.


John, 61, said, "Carol (a pseudonym), 54, and I met in Southern California in 1978 while employed in the same field but for different organizations. I vaguely recall asking her out, but she declined. We became friendly colleagues who talked about business and occasionally our personal lives off and on for the next several years. Both of us married others in the mid-1980s but we stayed in touch. I divorced in 1994 and have remained single.

Dating Old Flames - Reuniting with one’s first love

August 26, 2016

Most of us remember our first love. You've thought of him or her from time to time since you parted ways, oh so many years ago. You've pondered, "I wonder what would have happened if..." Perhaps you've kept in touch, or seen that person at a reunion, or in many situations, you've lost complete track. Today's story is about the latter. We've changed the names at the request of a Champ we'll call Tina.


She wrote, "This is Tina from northern California. I am 70, a retired operating room nurse, enjoying every minute of retirement.

Dating Old flames worked for Lori

August 26, 2016

Lori from St. Louis, Missouri, sent an email last week: "I am a long-time reader of your newsletter and turning 60 this year. At the end of 2013, I was tired of online dating and decided in 2014 that I would try to meet single men who were already known to friends and colleagues, also known as fix ups or networking. Or, should I try, dating old flames?

"Then, I thought, 'I can do my own fixing up.' So, I called my old high school sweetie who I had not seen in 25 years. Through a mutual friend, I had heard he was single.

Dating Old Flames – Finding Love after 50

August 04, 2016

Gary, a real estate broker in Newport Beach, Calif., attended his 25th high school reunion. At a party afterward, he kissed his high school sweetheart in the same room in the same house where he had kissed her 25 years before. He dated his old flame and now they're happily married

Suzy's reconnection with her former sweetheart didn't work out as well. The Mission Viejo, Calif., woman warns about getting in touch with former lovers. "I did and got badly burned. I kept thinking of him as he was and never saw what he is today." Dating old flames didn't work for her.

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