If I Should Fall Behind - A Senior Romantic Success Story

November 4, 2016

On Life and Love after 50  -  November 4, 2016

If I Should Fall Behind

On June 7, 2013, I published a newsletter titled: Where is a good place to meet men in their 60s? The newsletter was prompted by an email I had received from Champ Marci, who lived in Orange, California, a city about 25 miles from where I lived in San Clemente. Marci had wanted to know where to meet men in their 60s in her city. 
The newsletter's first paragraph stated, “In the 19 years I've been writing about finding love after 50, I've been asked questions similar to "Where are the single men?" an estimated 400 times or more. And that's a conservative number.

“I am not familiar with singles activities in the city of Orange or its surrounding cities. My answer applies to women age 50+ across the USA and in foreign countries as well, who are similarly curious about where to go to meet single men.”
In the remainder of that newsletter, I gave a detailed, and hopefully helpful explanation about where to go to meet single men. That newsletter is now posted to the Finding Love After 50 website under the category, “Where are the senior men.” A link is provided to it at the end of today’s newsletter.
One of the responses to that June 7, 2013, newsletter came from a New Jersey woman named Sue who said she had been dating online for five years and had met some great guys. But, online dating wasn't how Sue met her man. 
Sue wrote (remember this was in June 2013), “I’m 60 and have met the most amazing man in the most amazing way! I was in a place that I don’t frequent and at a time I would have never been there—in an Irish Pub in New York City, near Penn Station, on a Thursday last December (2012).
“I was there with a few girl friends from work to kill time waiting for a train. We stopped in for a drink after seeing a play. A man walked in that I was instantly attracted to—a big bear of a man, around my age, with a nice beard and casual work clothing on. He ordered a beer and sort of hung in the background.

“I glanced his way and then continued my conversation with a much younger man to my right, the area to my left was open. A few minutes later, I checked out the new man behind me again, and he smiled at me, so I invited him to step up to join me.
“We are together now (June, 2013). Yesterday was our six-month anniversary of meeting. Much later he told me if I hadn’t invited him up, he would have never spoken to me. He was on a break from work and eats dinner in this pub often.
“He said I was his ideal woman: red hair, green eyes, very white skin, full-figured (we are both Irish). He said he was in awe of me and thought I was out of his league. I was dressed for our company Christmas event.
“We clicked instantly! Lots of things in common and chatted for about an hour and a half before I had to go. I thought, what are the chances? I live in New Jersey and work in Connecticut. He lives in Pennsylvania and works in New York City. But he makes the relationship work.
“He comes to see me almost every week-end and sometimes I go there. We go away at least once a month and have met almost all of each other’s nearest and dearest friends. It’s a completely wonderful relationship that can certainly lead to both of our second marriages.
“My words to those looking for a mate: Keep at it! In the words of Winston Churchill, ‘Never Give Up.’ You never know where or when. Always be open to chance.”
Fast forward to after last Friday's newsletter was sent out.  I received this email from the same Sue: 

“I read you every week and love it. Thank you. We are the ones who met by accident in the Irish Pub in NYC while I was waiting for a train in 2012. We did it! Bag pipers, kilts, tartan for all on October 1, Pat and Sue got married."

And Sue sent this photo


              Champ Sue and her hubby Pat - married 4 years after they met

“I am 63 and Pat is 56. The marine in the middle is Pat's nephew who performed the ceremony for us...Beautiful!  We were married on Long Island in an Irish American Hall, with a great Irish band. Pat's family is from the area. It was an Irish wedding ceremony.

“We did a lot of research on ancient Celtic traditions in marriage and adopted a few for us. (Blue dress traditional color for Irish brides) and the braid in my hair- along with the wild flowers in my bouquet, and of course the Kilt on Pat! His son (as best man) wore a kilt as did MANY of our guests... I asked all to wear a Tartan of some sort and 80% of guests did! It was fabulous!! 
“The most unique tradition was the hand fasting...where we wrote our own vows and said them for each turn of the ties as our hands were literally fastened together...it was very emotional... 
“The first dance was to Bruce Springsteen - If I Should Fall Behind (we loved the Paul Carrack you tube version as Bruce is too hard to understand his words) 
“There were 130 people there that only wanted to see us happy...what a rush! And so worth waiting for! A year to plan-over in a night.


“We are thrilled to be Mr and Mrs! We told our story in our Bride and Groom speech. Some didn't know how we met so it was a lot of fun for all to know that it's possible to meet and marry later in life!"


Note from Tom:  I love successful romance stories from our Champs. For those of you not familiar with Bruce Springsteen’s song, here are the lyrics from the website. www.lyricsfreak.com. If those lyrics don’t grab you hard, you don’t understand love.

You can also listen to Bruce perform the song on Youtube, but I agree with Sue, the words are hard to understand.

                               Bruce Springsteen – If I Should Fall Behind Lyrics

We said we'd walk together baby come what may
That come the twilight should we lose our way
If as we're walkin a hand should slip free
I'll wait for you
And should I fall behind
Wait for me

We swore we'd travel darlin' side by side
We'd help each other stay in stride
But each lover's steps fall so differently
But I'll wait for you
And if I should fall behind
Wait for me

Now everyone dreams of a love lasting and true
But you and I know what this world can do
So let's make our steps clear that the other may see
And I'll wait for you
If I should fall behind
Wait for me

Now there's a beautiful river in the valley ahead
There 'neath the oak's bough soon we will be wed
Should we lose each other in the shadow of the evening trees
I'll wait for you
And should I fall behind
Wait for me
Darlin' I'll wait for you
Should I fall behind
Wait for me
Link to The June 7, 2013, newsletter, under the Where Are the Senior Men?category:



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