Never give up on finding love after 60 - finding love in remote West Texas The June 5, 2015, On Life and Love After 50 newsletter featured a new widower, Larry, who wrote, “I am still trying to restart my life; my wife of 40 years died of lung cancer in early February (2015). I am coming to terms with my new reality, slowly, and have decided that living alone for x number of years is not for me. “My problem is that I live in a very small town in a rural area of West Texas,

This week, I received an email from Champ Karen in Michigan, saying she had kept a copy of the October 25, 2013, newsletter on her computer home screen. The title: “Rebuilding Trust After Being Dumped Takes Time.” She sent a copy to help me recall it. Karen said, “I thought it was good advice. Has this marriage survived? (I hope so).” I found it amazing that Karen had kept the article on her home screen for three and a half years. And I recalled it vividly. It was about Trent

Vilamoura Portugal - cow advertising sports store Last week, a new Champ joined the On Life and Love After 50 newsletter; this week she emailed me. Her name is Nikol. Nikol wrote, “I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 10 years. We are both 69 and met at a grief-support group at Saddleback Church. “We live less than a mile from each other and spend a lot of time together. In the first three years of our relationship he wanted me to marry him. I wasn't ready

From the Mailbag: Questions and comments I received over the last few days that will either have you scratching your head or smiling as we launch into 2017. 1. Is a man cheap if he doesn’t want to spend money on dating? Micki asked: “What is your opinion of this situation? A friend of a friend does not want to date women because it means spending money on a date. Do you think this person has financial issues or he is just a cheapskate?” Tom’s answer: It might not be either. I

Part 1 - Three women Champs look ahead to 2017 With 2016 coming to a close, three senior single women share their thoughts on dating, relationships and life, as they look ahead to 2017. Jane wrote, “While I still enjoy your "On Life and Love after 50" newsletter column after several years, I'm not seriously into looking for a mate these days. After a long marriage to a controlling man, I'm enjoying putting myself first for once in my life. “While I'm open to men, I don't thin

Writing about "girlie stuff." Helping older singles through the dating maze for 23 years Tom's partner Greta--writing about "Girlie Stuff" One of the requirements of being a columnist is having a thick skin. When you write about a topic that can be controversial and touches people personally—such as dating and relationships after age 50--you have to be prepared for responses you might not like, and don’t agree with. But, you need to be impartial and whenever possible, present

On Life and Love after 50 Newsletter August 26, 2016 Three parts in today's newsletter. Part 2 is a scam alert. Part 3 is a link to the featured song. Part 1 - Woman, 68, frustrated with senior dating Dating again after losing a mate can be overwhelming, particularly for senior women. This week, Brenda, not her true name, shared her frustrations. Brenda said, “I am a widow of two years. A year ago, I was on OKCupid and Plenty of Fish Internet dating sites for three

I have often stressed to older singles the importance of getting involved in activities and making new friends. This week, Lynda, one of our newest Champs, emailed asking for advice on how to do that. Lynda said: “I was a single mom for 17 years and was very involved in my children's lives and their activities. I have had the same type of work for 32 years and have moved a lot due to a military way of life. When I was in my 20s and 30s, making friends happened without even