The month of December can be an emotional time for people of all ages, particularly for those over 50. Sometimes the emotions are sad; sometimes happy. With a new year coming, people reflect more than usual about what’s in store for them in the months ahead. This December, I think of our Champ Melinda Bachman—I mentioned her a month ago—whose husband Dale passed away unexpectedly in January, and her Santa Rosa, California, home--they bought together in 2016--burned in the Cal
“How long have you been writing your column?” a woman I had never met asked me in the Capistrano Beach Costco last week. “Almost 24 years,” I told her. I thought about my answer to her question as I entered the refrigerated room to pick up some blueberries and baby spinach: “Wow, that’s almost a quarter century.” How the time has flown. My first column appeared on July 4, 1994. It was called “Middle Aged and Dating.” Why that subject? I had gone through a divorce and thought
Madrid's Plaza del Sol - with famous Tio Pepe sign on building in background and statue of Carlos III King of Spain Author's note: This article appeared in Picket Fence Media newspapers in south Orange County, California: Dana Point Times, San Clemente Times, The Capistrano Dispatch. I have added extra photos and written copy than the original article. Occasionally, when people see my partner, Greta, and I around the tri-city area, they say, “We read about your last trip. Whe
On Life and Love after 50 Newsletter - March 18, 2017 From Jackson, Michigan to Dana Point, California after 50 years - See story below News that spread like wildfire among my high school classmates I grew up in Jackson, Michigan, a city of 50,000. Jackson is 80 miles due west of Detroit. And like so many of our Champs, I loved my home town.
Most Champs, however, eventually moved away from where they grew up. They went off to college or joined the military or moved away fo
Bouncing Back from spouse leaving
It’s funny how column topics come about. Last week, I shared an email I had received from Champ Jessie in Oregon.
In that email, Jessie was quoted as saying she was single for 15 years before she and Paul found each other. Then she said, “If you ever do a Volume 2 to your “How 50 Couples Found Love After 50 book, I’d be happy to be interviewed, and I’m sure my guy would too.”
That paragraph elicited several responses from Champs offerin
Part 1 - Three women Champs look ahead to 2017 With 2016 coming to a close, three senior single women share their thoughts on dating, relationships and life, as they look ahead to 2017. Jane wrote, “While I still enjoy your "On Life and Love after 50" newsletter column after several years, I'm not seriously into looking for a mate these days. After a long marriage to a controlling man, I'm enjoying putting myself first for once in my life. “While I'm open to men, I don't thin