Finding Love After 50: The Look!
Welcome to Finding Love After 50, where you'll find information on middle-age dating and romance, relationships, middle-age and senior sex issues and a host of other topics of
interest to middle age singles. Here's today's topic:
The look: When single men stare at single women:
How should a single woman respond?
A woman friend I'll call Jackie asked: "How interested are men when they give women 'the look?' I don't mean leers or ogles. I'm talking about the 'dazed, mouth-hanging-open,
wide-smiled' look."
Jackie also asked: "Is it commonplace for men to carelessly throw it out to every skirt that passes by? How do women know when to take it as something more than just a
testosterone-related function? And do men want women to respond?"
Jackie explained that one day, shortly after her divorce six years ago, she was walking past the boy's clothing section in K-Mart. She noticed an attractive blonde-haired man with his
young son. "He crossed through the clothing racks and stopped in the aisle as I passed. Standing frozen, he gave me 'the look' and softly said hello. I warmly returned his greeting. He didn't stop me,
but he made my day," Jackie said.
A year ago, Jackie and her son went to Best Buy. She saw a man loading a box into his camper. "As he turned toward me, surprise overcame both of us. It was the same look and the
same man from five years earlier. All that was exchanged was a hello and a smile," said Jackie.
Jackie said she's dated a few men since her divorce, but none made her feel as special as 'the look' from the blonde stranger. "If I ever get 'the look' again, maybe I'll risk it and take
it further than a smile," Jackie added.
Here's my take. A guy doesn't do 'the look' she described every time he sees a skirt unless he's shallow. Obviously, there was an instant chemistry connection between the two.
And yes, it was a testosterone-related function, and that's good.
Who can tell at this point whether a relationship would go beyond those love-at-first-sight feelings? It's a damn good start, though. We don't even know if he's married or in a
committed relationship. We don't know if he knew Jackie was the same person, or he just likes to stare at women. We do know he frequents similar places as Jackie. Perhaps he'll read this column
and contact me. If he does, I'll let her know.
If any of you readers see or know a handsome blonde man who drives a camper, and has at least a son, tell him there's a Jackie Kennedy look-a-like, (including similar
mannerisms), and a relationship columnist, looking for him.
>Within Jackie's story lies an important lesson for single women and men alike. Meeting potential mates at our age is difficult. If you see a stranger, who excites and notices you,
introduce yourself and take the initiative to ask he/she out for a cup of coffee, because you likely will never see that person again.
If he/she rejects you, chalk it up to the dating deal. You'll know you gave it your best shot, and won't be haunted by your inaction for six years.
My advice to Jackie: If you see him again, consider it fate and introduce yourself. And yes, guys want women to respond.
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