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Love after 50. Author and columnist Tom Blake's dating information and advice for widowers, widows, divorced men, divorced women, middle-aged singles and senior singles who are dating again and hope to meet a mate. See bottom of this page to sign up for Tom's free weekly e-mailed column.

Love After 50 Starts 8th year by Tom Blake

"Love After 50," the column for older singles, started seven years ago today (July 4, 1994). Oh my gosh, how my life has changed.

Back then, middle age singles issues weren't as important as they are today. Baby boomers hadn't started to turn 50. Now, almost 15 million of them are there, and over half are divorced.

If you're an older single, over 45, you've got a lot of company. There are nearly 35 million of us who aren't married.

The most frequently-asked question I hear is: "Where can I meet someone to date?" It's the hardest question to answer because there's no simple response.

People come into my Dana Point (Calif) sandwich shop, knowing I write these Baby Boomer columns, ask that question, and then step back, cross their arms, and expect in one minute I can solve their dating woes.

I tell them, "My middle name isn't Viagra. There's no magic answer or pill you can take. First, middle age singles have to commit to get off the couch and out of the house. Second, pursue activities that interest you, and revitalize your life. You may live for another 50 years. Worry about yourself; don't make finding a mate your sole pursuit."

For me, life in the last eight years has been an adventure. The reason the columns began was an unexpected departure on Xmas Eve. by my wife, when she cleaned out our home and left without notice. Then, I wallowed in the middle age dating trenches for a couple of years.

After that, I was involved in a three-year gut- wrenching relationship. Relationships shouldn't be that difficult, especially when we care.

Three years ago, a kind, considerate, warm, friendly, understanding, non-demanding, caring, and appreciative woman ordered a carrot juice in my deli. I asked her to dinner, and we've been together since. We're almost the same age. I realize I'm one of the luckiest people on the planet because of her.

Update from Tom Blake: We're still together, now it's 5 and a half years (Dec., 2003).

This column now blankets a good portion of south Orange County California-Dana Point, Laguna Niguel, San Juan Capistrano, Aliso Viejo, Mission Viejo, Rancho Santa Margarita, Laguna Hills, and now, just added-and I'm thrilled about this-San Clemente. I don't know how many readers are under this umbrella, but I guess 40,000 or more.

The years have brought two appearances on the Today Show, a book, with another in the works, And, my "Single Again" column appears in The Orange County Register (300.000 readers).

But, my heart is closest to older singles, readers of this column. Many of you I know in person; many are friends although we haven't met. I'm amazed at the personal information some of you reveal to me.

Thanks for sharing, thanks for caring. Now, back to this monster we call middle age dating.

Tom's other sites

Travel After 55
A Guide for Senior Travel and Romance

How 50 Couples Found Love After 50

Tutor and Spunky's Deli in Dana Point

Prime Rib & Boxcars...
Whatever Happened to Victoria Station

Tom's Ebooks

Tom's 5-star rental property in Sonoma County, California

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