Finding love after 50. The website for middle aged singles and senior singles, providing information and dating advice for middle age dating and senior
dating. This column's topic:
To find eligible men to date or mate,
get out there and look
"Where are the men?" is the most frequently asked question I hear from women. Here are examples from the past few days.
• Diane Alcorn, Orange County, wrote: " Is there someone out there for me?
"I'm 68, considered attractive, a widow for nine years, and tired of being by myself. So, where do I go to meet someone?"
• Clara Clark e-mailed: "I'm a woman, 67, and would like to meet a male companion. Do you have any suggestions?"
• Peggy Mac e-mailed from Huntington, W.Va: "I'm 80 and volunteer every week, go to lunch at a Forever Young group (mostly widows – the men who attend are husbands).
NO SINGLE MEN. I would love to have the recipe for knowing the whereabouts of lonely single men."
So where can women 50-plus meet single men?
To my knowledge, there is no place in Orange County or in the United States where older single men congregate to meet single women. To improve their chances of meeting men,
women need to get out of the house and pursue activities that interest them.
They can volunteer, go back to school, join clubs, take a part-time job, attend reunions or go on cruises and trips. They can try the Internet or personal ads or join a dating service.
Where they go or what they do depends entirely on their interests. And while they're out and about, women may or may not meet someone. For certain, their chances will be better
than if they stay home. There are many success stories of older singles hooking up. Teresa Miller, Lafayette, Ind., wrote, "I was a widow for five years. I wasn't ready to be alone the rest of my life at 45,
so I set out to find a husband and found one. We've been married for two years."
Eileen Ganong, San Clemente, a widow, says, "Men and women should think about what they want, instead of assuming that another person is going to fix whatever is missing in
their lives.
"We should be working on ourselves instead of lamenting the quality or quantity of potential partners."
So, I can't answer the question, "Where are the men?" They're everywhere and they're nowhere. They're where you'd least expect them to be. If you're doing everything you can to be
active and to have a good life – with or without a man – that's the best you can do.
Note from Tom: I was saddened by the death of Johnny Cash, a friend for 28 years.
I've posted a tribute to Johnny on my Web site:http://www.findingloveafter50.com. Click on "Tom's tribute to Johnny Cash" on the right
side of the home page.
READER COMMENTS
Ed Parr, San Juan Capistrano: "To my continuin' amazement, even prosperous professional gals passively let the guy pay for: the show, refreshments before and/or after, parking, toll way, etc.,
without offering to spring for any of it. The parsimonious professionals leave me wondering where is that fine line in the sand, between bubble-headed indifference or good ol' fashioned gold
digging?"
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