Internet Tip Sheet for Older Singles
Note from Tom: Here are a few Internet dating tips taken from my book, “Finding Love After 50: How To Begin. Where To Go. What To Do.”
 for Book info. It’s not a complete list, but it does cover
important aspects of Internet dating.
-Trust your instincts. If someone sounds too good to be true, he is. If you feel that tiny shadow of doubt—that something isn’t quite
right—listen to your inner voice
-People lie about everything on the Internet—their age, income, looks, you name it. Be aware that whatever you hear may not be true
-You’ll need to provide an up-to-date photo. Don’t have it taken by your neighbor Sue on an overcast day with a throw-away camera while
you're holding your cat or pet rabbit. Be sure the picture is clear and you are smiling. Digital cameras are great for this because the photos can be uploaded to the Internet and you can take lots of them until you get one just right
-Few men will continue a conversation with a woman without seeing a picture
-Don’t take rejection and rudeness personally. Sadly, it goes with the Internet territory. If it happens, just say, “Next.”
-Don’t talk for months without having a face-to-face meeting. It could be a waste of your time and his time—if there is no chemistry
-Don’t fall in love with an image—with someone you’ve not met in person. You think you’re in love but you aren’t. Too many people
have been disappointed when meeting in person. Cool your emotions before you see him live
-Internet dating creates long-distance relationships. If both want to be with a mate on a daily basis, guess what? Someone’s got to
move. Best to discuss this in the early stages. Who’s going to uproot their life and move to a new city?
-Meeting someone is a numbers game. It could take months. Don’t give up. Often, it happens when you aren't looking, or a week before your
match site contract expires
-Don’t try too hard. It shows through. You’ll come off as desperate and that’s a turnoff
-Beware of “romance scams.” They are prevalent in 2006, particularly from people in Africa and other foreign countries. If someone you
don’t know is killing you with kindness—sending flowers, chocolates or whatever, be leery and run the other way!
-Everyone you meet on the Internet is a stranger. Be careful of all strangers. And when it comes time to meet in person, be extra
careful
-Meet in a well-lighted place—a coffee shop or pancake house, for
example, and tip off the manager that you are meeting a stranger.
-Tell your friends and family with whom you're meeting and provide info.
about them—phone number, where they live, work, etc
-Never accept a ride to your car when first meeting a stranger. Don't let them see your car or your license plate. Don’t give out
your last name, street address or phone number
This is a short list. Don’t be naďve. My gosh, if you have a question, email me at
TPBlake@aol.com and lay it on me. I’ll give you a straight and
objective answer.
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