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Finding love after 50. Author and columnist Tom Blake's dating information and advice for widowers, widows, divorced men, divorced
women, middle-aged singles boomer singles and senior singles who are dating again and hope to meet a mate.
Finding Love After 50
by Tom Blake
© 2004
Keaton plays a single woman with a successful career who has a zest for life, but admits she'd like to have a man in it. While helping Nicholson
recover, she falls in love with him.
She allows herself to become vulnerable by telling him she loves him and by having a steamy affair. She hopes a relationship will develop.
When Nicholson feels better, he dismisses any thoughts of commitment with Keaton. His roving eye kicks back in and he resumes pursuing younger woman.
When Keaton sees him in a Manhattan restaurant with a date, she's devastated, and angry at herself for having gotten involved. She starts a relationship with the handsome doctor who treated Nicholson. The doctor is 25 years her junior and crazy about her.
It takes Nicholson six months to face the realization that he loves Keaton and his life is empty without her. Once he manages to reel her back in, he becomes a changed man.
He inherits a family and becomes a grandfather figure. We see Nicholson beaming while holding, lifting and hugging Keaton's grandchild. No more holidays alone for the two older love birds.
The movie delivers five messages to older singles-particularly to men and women who feel they must date people considerably younger.
-A younger lover may not remain by your side if you become ill
-Older people can enjoy wonderful sex even though they've been out of practice for years. (But, as Nicholson finds out in the E.R.,
Viagra and nitroglycerin don't mix).
-Older men and older women usually have more in common and are more compatible with someone closer to their age
-People close in age can more readily share and appreciate the treasure of extended families and grandkids
-When a person older than you were hoping for comes along-and he or she is perfect for you--don't turn your back thinking you need someone younger. Make a commitment and give it a go. If you don't, you may miss the greatest relationship in your life and not be as fortunate as Nicholson and Keaton are in the movie.
Give Keaton a hug for delivering a great performance and showing older singles it's never too late to love and be loved.
Reader Comments
Joe, Los Angeles, Ca., 50s, "Time to dust off that old slogan from the 1960s, 'Make love not war,' I find it impossible to be angry after some good 'lovin.'" Response: No argument from me.
William, Anaheim, Ca., "Regarding your bashing message, none of us are perfect. If we accept others, things would go smoother for all of us." Response: No more bashing (or, at least not as much).
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