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Finding love after 50. The website for middle aged singles and senior singles, providing information and dating advice for middle age dating and senior dating.
This column's topic: Singles should include bookstores on their list of places to go to meet other singles. For men, the ratio is favorable.
Singles Night at the Book Store
Book stores are good places for singles to meet other singles. Especially for single men.
Last Friday night, Barnes and Noble in Aliso Viejo (Calif.) sponsored a panel discussion and book signing, featuring four authors who write about being
single. Approximately 150 people turned out.
Single men who would like to meet a mate missed a rich opportunity as the ratio of women to men exceeded five to one. One gentleman who attended
e-mailed that same evening, asking if I knew how to put him in touch with one of the women who talked to me. I forwarded his e-mail; now, it's up to her. Perhaps a romance
will bloom.
I was honored to be one of the guests, along with Steve Nakamoto, author of "Men Are Like Fish,";
Gail Burgess, author of "Urgent Dating Solutions,"; and, Tina Tessina, author of "The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again." My book is titled "Middle Aged and Dating Again."
Each of the books are well written and have useful information for people who are single and would like to find a mate. The books are available at the Aliso
Viejo Barnes and Noble (and in bookstores throughout the United States).
What impressed me about the evening was the quality of the people who attended the standing-room only event. Many significant questions
were asked, and then each of the authors would take a crack at answering them.
One 50-year-old gentleman named George asked the most loaded question of the evening. He wondered if it was okay for him to expect the women he dates to be financially
responsible and pay for dates once in a while.
No one on the panel was dying to answer that loaded, often controversial question. I said that couples need to express their financial expectations to each
other and work out what is best for them.
I added that I have been the bank in certain previous relationships and didn't want to be the bank again. No women threw an egg or a rotten fish at me, nobody
got up and walked out, so I assume my answer was acceptable.
Author Sam said he thought that Thursday nights and Sunday afternoons were the best times for singles to be out and about with the possibility of meeting
someone.
Author Gail said singles need to get a life of their own first and to pay attention to what is going on in the singles world. Too many singles expect someone is
going to "discover" or find them without their making an effort. Dating doesn't work that way.
Author Tina Tessina, a therapist, has sold over three million copies of her books. Her wealth of dating knowledge comes from helping hundreds of couples
who have shared their problems with her.
One woman expressed afterward her frustration with older men wanting to be with considerably younger women. I told her that those guys were foolish and
living in a dream world. She seemed satisfied with my opinion.
The consensus of the panel seemed to be what's important for singles is to develop their own interests, and then get out of the house and pursue them. Put
on a positive attitude and be creative.
Many bookstores throughout the country sponsor singles nights regularly. If I were a single guy hoping to meet a nice woman, I'd put attending presentations
at book stores high on my list of activities.
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