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Blue collar and white collar dating. Author and columnist Tom Blake provides dating information and advice for widowers, widows, divorced men, divorced
women, middle-aged singles boomer singles and senior singles who are dating again and hope to meet a mate.
Blue collar - white collar romances
© 2004 by Tom Blake
Monday, March 15, 2004
How much does the color of his collar
really matter?
Can white-collar women have successful relationships with blue-collar men? Fifteen Orange County women shared their opinions and experiences. Some
said yes, others no. Most agreed that it depends on the individuals involved.
Candy, Mission Viejo: "I'm a psychologist. When the man is comfortable and secure with himself, he can be in a relationship with me. He must be
educated, but education comes from many sources."
Jennifer, midcounty: "As a white-collar worker with a postgraduate education, I'm not comfortable dating blue-collar men. A relationship requires intellectual
compatibility."
Darlene, Lake Forest: "Typically, white-collar-women and blue-collar-men pairings don't work. Men's egos get in the way. The issue goes deeper
than the job situation. Often, the woman will be more educated and her interests more diverse, resulting in a problem."
Florence, Orange: "White-collar women marrying blue-collar men can work if a couple has a strong personal relationship and shares common
interests/hobbies. I'm assuming the man has some level of social skills and can communicate with others. The color of the collar holds no importance for me."
Emily, Costa Mesa: "I'm a technical writer who has enjoyed two fulfilling relationships with blue-collar men. They find and share the simple things in life more
than their white-collar counterparts. I'd rather ride in a pickup truck to a picnic than in a Beemer to have lunch at the Ritz."
Stella, Orange: "I date a wonderful man. He works in a field that requires him to work almost all of the time. He doesn't have two full days off. His
blue-collar job is frustrating to our personal life. Often, I view his job as the bad guy."
Joyce, Newport Beach: "After a few years or a few marriages, meeting a gentle, caring person no matter what line of work is what's important."
Peggy, Yorba Linda: "I was a white-collar woman married to a blue-collar guy. He was insecure, feeling I'd be constantly looking at more 'professional' men
as if they were a better choice. The problem is more in the mind-set of the partners than with having different jobs."
Jacquie, south county: "A similar background of education and experience is necessary for a relationship to be successful at this stage of life."
Jane, Huntington Beach: "I head off to work in a business suit and my partner in work boots, shorts and a T-shirt. I work in computers; he builds custom
homes. We share friends and experiences; our careers haven't created a conflict."
Sue, Orange: "I married a blue-collar worker. I don't think it matters what a man does or how much he makes; it's what inside that counts. I look for trust,
dedication and honesty as well as love of God and family."
Jan, Tustin: "I dated a nice guy, but our educational and occupational backgrounds became a problem. He was an electrician and uncomfortable that I worked
in an office, drove a nicer car and owned my place. I constantly had to fight the urge to correct his grammar. Conversations were limited to casual small talk."
Karen, Newport Beach, "I prefer blue-collar guys. I've more respect for a guy who makes his own way and rules. There's less chance of jealousy, as he isn't in
an enclosed area basically living with all of the women in the office. He's usually more rugged; that's even more of a turn-on."
Elaine: "I was a VP in a large organization. I met a man who wined, dined and flattered me and knocked himself out to make a great first impression. He was
a bus driver, with no aspirations beyond that. I deduced we had nothing in common. I've wondered if he would have made the most wonderful of partners."
Before dismissing a blue-collar guy who enters your life, give him a chance. The pluses may far outweigh the differences.
You'll find out soon enough.
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