Attitude in dating is important
March 27, 2003 It's all in the attitude,
By TOM BLAKE
For The Register's South County Weekly Newspapers
One of the best things singles can do to improve their
chances of meeting a mate is to have a positive attitude.
Mark Victor Hansen, co-creator of the No.1 New York
Times best sellers Chicken Soup for the Soul series, publishes a free weekly
e-mail column called "Rich Results" (www.markvictorhansen.com).
In last week's column, Mark wrote, "Attitude will lift you up
or shut you down. – Attitude is the number one reason individuals succeed or
fail. – Incorporate a positive, joyful attitude and you'll have positive, joyful
results."
Alix, age 55, Mission Viejo, typifies Mark's
point. Alix e-mailed,
"Enjoy reading your column, as I'm a middle-age lady eager to
learn about dating."
A year and a half ago, Alix read where I was going to be on
the "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" television show, hosted by Cybill
Shepherd.
"Thanks to you, I watched the show," e-mailed Alix. "Also
appearing on the show that day was Mimi Fane, who sponsors dances for Orange
County older singles. Now, I attend Mimi's dances."
(Contact Mimi at: (714) 731-3399 or at:
Zebra1492@hotmail.com for info.)
"I saw Mimi's dances as an opportunity to dance and have fun.
And to meet some neat people along the way. I haven't met the 'love of my life'
but am having a blast! Her dances also provide the chance to get information
from others for additional singles dances and dance clubs in the area."
Alix says she appreciates the opportunity to take risks, meet
new people and observe the other singles when she's not out there "tearing up
the dance floor."
"I read your column which mentioned Mark Victor Hansen's
ideas regarding 'jump-starting' our lives to meet a potential mate. It helped me
to see that I need to take more risks, go even more places and join more singles
groups. Guess I'd better get busy," Alix said.
Lynda, formerly of Huntington Beach, now living in
Heidelberg, Germany, receives this column by e-mail. Lynda wrote, "I felt
compelled to write you in support of what you've been encouraging all of us
'oldsters' to do ? to get involved in activities, clubs, etc. You are oh so
right!
"Living in a foreign country and without my safety net of
friends and family nearby, I've been forced into doing just that or facing a
very lonely life outside of work. I joined a ski club and am looking into
joining a walking club."
Lynda said she's met many nice people and is having fun: "I
read an article on MSN about research showing that people who 'act' outgoing
have more fun than people who 'act' shy.
"I have put this to the test by acting outgoing (not my
innate nature) with great results, even been so bold as to invite myself along
on an outing with total strangers. I had fun and met some really cool people."
Alix and Lynda are examples of what singles can do by having
a positive attitude and by getting out with people.
Weekly comments:
Jacquie, Irvine: "Darling story (last week) about
Frances and Loren. Who would guess a burger place, too. Cute. I see romance
still blooms at 74 and 84! I'll be 55 on March 25 so I guess I have some time
left."
Dale, Sacramento: "What a heartwarming story ... as
well as that flicker of hope ..."
Mary, Costa Mesa: "What a wonderful story and a
wonderful son to care that much for his mother's happiness. Thanks once again
for giving us hope.
"If we are out there doing everyday things, when least
expecting it, we will be more natural and therefore attract the right person."
To comment on Middle Age Relationships, e-mail
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P.O. Box 442, Dana Point, CA, 92629.
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